Showing posts with label Books. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Books. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Discomfort

"... you need to find your discomfort, chase it down, and sit with it unblinking for a while."

- The Manager's Path by Camille Fournier

Thursday, December 29, 2016

Take the view that nothing is wrong with you; you are ok

Tami Simon: 'How does somebody interrupt that tendency (to blame others and oneself for failures) on the spot so that they can go back and see what's underneath?'

Pena Chodron: '...underneath the whole thing always, whether we're blaming others or blaming ourselves, is this dreadful feeling of, "I am not okay." No words get anywhere close to how bad that actually feels... And when I get into that feeling, I have noticed that it isn't kind of like this feeling of terrible dread that something awful is about to happen...But I think view is very important. And by view I mean one's attitude. You have to take the view that there is nothing wrong with you; you are (fundamentally) okay; you can allow this feeling to be there;..."

- from fail fail again fail better by Pema Chodron 

Fundamentally, I am good

'We can begin to understand that we can be with those feelings of failure - to allow those feelings- and even train ourselves to say, "I haven't done anything wrong; I'm not a bad person . I'm not a failure; I'm not a mess-up; I haven't blown it." Or, "Fundamentally, I am good, and I can allow this feeling; I can experience this feeling . I can stay with this feeling for now, maybe two seconds , or maybe four seconds, or maybe even longer."'

- Pema Chodron in "fail fail again fail better"

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Failure and it's hurt is something that happens to us from outside?

"I think the most significant thing about it is that we usually think of it (failure and its hurt) as something that happens to us from the outside, right?"

- Pema Chodron in "fail fail again fail better" 

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Daily Focus Blocks

"The focus block method...has you block off a substantial chunk of time, most days of the week, for applying sustained focus to your most important creative tasks...The key twist is that you mark this time on your calendar like any other meeting. This is especially important if your organization uses a shared calendar system.
Now, when someone tries to schedule something during these times, you can defer to your existing, clearly marked obligation: "Sorry, I'm already booked from nine to twelve that day." Similarly, if someone complains that you were slow to respond to an e-mail, or didn't pick up the phone, you have a socially acceptable excuse "I was booked all morning and am just seeing this now." People are used to the idea that they cannot demand your attention during times when you already have a scheduled appointment...
Blocking off time for uninterrupted focus, however, is only half the battle. The other half is resisting distractions. This means no e-mail, no Internet and no phone...If you've been immersed in distraction for years, you need to train yourself before you can work for long periods without it. A few tips can help you in this effort:
Start with small blocks of focused time and then gradually work yourself up to longer durations...begin with an hour at a time, then add fifteen minutes to each session every two weeks. The key, however, is to never allow distraction. If you give in and quickly check Facebook, cancel the whole block and try again later. Your mind can never come to believe that even a little bit of distraction is okay during these blocks.
Tackle a clearly identified and isolated task...
Consider using a different location for these blocks. Move to a different room, or a library, or even a quiet place outside to perform your focused work. When possible, do your work with pen and paper to avoid even the possibility of online distraction."

- "Manage Your Day-to-Day: Build Your Routine, Find Your Focus, and Sharpen Your Creative Mind (The 99U Book Series)" by Jocelyn K. Glei and 99U